Don’t Let Everyday Stress Affect Your Kids

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When you have children, it’s only natural to want the best for them, whether this means sending them to the best local school or spoiling them for Christmas and at their birthdays. And while every parent is trying to make sure that they can afford to fulfil their kids’ dreams and to build a safe and healthy life for them, it’s important not to forget one key element of parenting. The best thing you can do for your kid is being a good parent, and that matters more than the toys you can buy. The qualities that you expect in a good parent is to be loving in such a way that your child can perceive your affection. You also need to be prepared, as children, unfortunately, require a lot of planning from keeping baby wipes in your handbag to considering writing your will. And finally, the most important of all is about managing your stress. Here are the three most common types of anxiety that children can pick up from their parents.

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Financial anxiety is linked to parents

More often than not, adults who worry about their finances have witnessed the situation first hand from their parents. As a result, they grew up believing that money matters were something to fear. While there are many unfortunate financial crises, they all have a solution, from getting in touch with a company about options for debt consolidation with bad credit to considering a more frugal approach to your household budget. If you learn to handle your money problems effectively and to find the help you need, then your child will not grow up learning that money equals stress. More importantly, children who develop a fear of finances may never learn to manage a budget effectively. In other words, fear of money leads to debts and unsolvability.

Low self-esteem issues learned from mommies

Having a child can be stressful, especially as you struggle to understand what your baby wants. Is it hungry? Is it tired? Why does it cry? Consequently, how you react in moments of uncertainty will affect your child. If your baby feels your fear, it will react to it and become more agitated. Remaining calm is the best approach when dealing with children. Admittedly, there are no perfect parents, and you will make mistakes too. But if you feel bad about yourself as a person and a parent, you’re likely to extend the negativity to your child. Negative self-esteem serves as a poor example for children.

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How do you tell your kid to stop?

There are days when simply you can’t take it anymore, and you find yourself shouting at your child to behave. According to a study run by the Harvard Medical School, shouting at children can alter the structure of their brains. Shouting at your child to obey is not only loud, but it doesn’t work. Besides it shows that you’re not in control. But, and that’s the worst part of it, it also implies that there’s no other way to communicate. And consequently, shouty parents have shouty children who, inevitably, find it difficult to express their feelings.

In short, children learn very early how to handle their fears, self-esteem issues and communication strategies by watching their parents. Being a good parent is about showing the best possible example for your child. Be a good mom/dad, and learn to relax, that’s the best thing you can do.

 

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