Sometimes life is swimming along with everything going nicely as it should. Then it throws us a curveball, and suddenly we are in turmoil, not knowing which way to turn. It can be something physically traumatic, or emotionally destabilizing that throws us off track. How each person deals with it is unique to them. We are all different and cannot be expected to react in the same way to the same things.
If something has happened to you to cause upheaval, sometimes you need space and time to sit back and take stock. Often we don’t have time to stop and realize how much we have been affected by what has happened. There are many reasons this occurs. You may be distracted and busy dealing with other details of life. You may be deliberately avoiding the issues because they are upsetting you so deeply. It is possible you cannot accept the reality or seriousness of what has occurred yet, and it will just take some time for it to sink in.
Grief and bereavement often cause the latter. Someone can be taken out of our lives so quickly and suddenly that the mind has a tough time believing it can be true. If you or a loved one feels your reaction to a death is not quite right, see your doctor about seeking some counselling. You can talk through events to help them sink in. It will give you a chance to deal with your grief in the best way for you.
Our reactions to events can cause psychological problems that last a lifetime. A simple bang or loud noise can instill fear in us that affects how we cope with similar sounds. Have a look online for a CBT therapist in Denver or your closest city. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy allows you time to talk about problem but tries to help you change your behavior, reactions and attitudes toward it.
Phobias and anxiety are very easy to create and very difficult to get rid of again. Sometimes, the best you can hope for is to learn coping mechanisms for the problems. Some therapists believe that a single event cannot cause damage to your emotional or psychological well-being. Instead, they suggest that three or more things were mounting pressure prior to the event. The event was the trigger for your reaction but not the sole cause. Whether or not your parents were involved remains to be seen after some counselling or therapy sessions.
Even if you are just feeling blue for a while, it may be worth chatting to someone. This can help you make up your own mind whether you need professional intervention like medication or therapy. A good support network of friends and family are essential to good mental health so try to keep loved ones around you. If you do find pressures mounting and you are stressed, try to take a break before something else goes wrong to overload you. Prevention is much easier and far better, than cure.