There are times in marriage when you have to set everything aside and focus on one big event. They don’t tend to come much bigger than a potentially lucrative job interview, something that could offer a passport to a better standard of life.
When you’re the one going through the interview, that’s difficult enough. You have to figure out how you’re going to impress your potential new boss, as well as how you’re going to handle the inevitable nerves. It’s a tough time, without a doubt.
However, it’s potentially even more nerve-wracking when it’s your husband that’s the one who’s up for a new job.
The same is true when the situations are reversed; he will probably feel more nervous when it’s you going through the job interview process. That’s a natural part of marriage; we want everything to go well for the other person. So we see them not only struggling with their own nerves, but trying to cope with our own as we just hate the idea of them not getting something that they want so much.
Rather than frothing yourself into a pit of anxiety, perhaps the most productive thing you can do is help your husband prepare for the interview. This preparation can take on many different forms, but it will at least give you something useful to focus on – and who knows, it might even make a difference between a standard rejection letter and an invitation for a second call…
Step One: Crises Of Confidence
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The way that people present themselves in interviews has a tendency to make a difference on whether or not they are going to get the job. Not only do you want your man to look good, but you want them to feel as good and as confident as they possibly can. You should aim to help them deal with this on an emotional level with aids such as this guide to cultivating confidence from psychologytoday.com, but much of that confidence will come from feeling good and happy in their own skin.
So as well as helping and encouraging them to feel good about themselves on an emotional level, take the time to ensure their outfit and grooming is where it should be. If their formal suit is looking a bit worse for wear, it might be an idea to consider a new investment prior to the big day. It is, after all, an investment in their future.
Grooming matters here, too. If they are sporting facial hair, make sure it’s looking exactly as it should be with these beard care tips from 99centrazor.com. Their hair should be freshly trimmed, their shoes polished, and their shirt crisp with starch. With the looks on point, they should stride into that interview brimming with confidence.
Step Two: Rehearse, Rehearse, Rehearse
File SourceTake some time to learn about the company and role that he has applied for, then do a few practice sessions for the interview with him. Don’t just cover the basics, either – go into depth, working from a list of sample job interview questions from monster.com. This should let you identify any of his weaknesses so you can work on them together.
Don’t forget to make sure he has his answer to the most dreaded interview question of all: “what is your greatest weakness?”. He needs at least a couple of ideas for suggestions on what to say at this point; you can find some stellar suggestions at theinterviewguys.com.
Step Three: Be Calm
File SourceFinally, perhaps the most vital part of all this preparation is that you should be as cool and calm as possible. If you feel nerves or apprehension, don’t show them. Don’t even mention the job interview in an offhand way, especially if you’re relaxing or having some much needed family time. He’s going to need a chance to take his mind off the upcoming interview, and it’ll do you good to do the same thing as well!
The night before the big day, keep things simple and calm in your household. There’s no need to be acting as if you are walking on eggshells, but just foster an atmosphere of a standard relaxed evening. Of course, if he wants to talk about the interview then you should go along with it, but otherwise, just ignore it and let him have some time with his own thoughts.
Then, all you can is cross your fingers and hope that there’s going to be a just reward for all the work have both put into the process!
