Now the New Year has begun, many of us are trying to better ourselves in some way. Your resolution could involve improving your lifestyle and health. Or maybe successfully giving up a bad habit or cutting back on your spending. But sometimes despite our best efforts we give up and go back to what feels comfortable and safe. It takes hard work to become the best version of ourselves and get the life that we want. But when things don’t go our way or get too hard, many of us use it as an excuse to stop. Regardless of what is currently going on around you, you have the ability and power to get exactly what you want from life. You just need to change your perspective and learn how to get on the right path. These following points can be practiced by anybody and will get you on track to creating a fruitful and fulfilling life for yourself.
Decide what you want
To get started, you first need to visualize what you want your life to look like. A successful life comes in many forms, and no two people want exactly the same thing from theirs. There is no right or wrong way to live your life, and only you can decide what you want from it. It’s easy to get swept along with work and your home life. But if it leaves you feeling drained and uninspired, then it probably isn’t the right path for you. You’ve probably had these feelings at some point but not taken the right steps to change for the better. So be honest with yourself and map out what you would like from your life. You can write down a list or draw a picture, whatever you feel most comfortable with. Don’t make it small, dream big for once. You might want to become a best-selling author or to have a life without financial strain and worry. Once you have decided what you want, you need to be 100% committed to it. You’ll instantly feel lighter as if a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
Only you can control your happiness and deep down you probably realize this. But this fact gets shaded because we are told from an early age that our happiness depends on finding the right person or getting the right career. Many of us spend a lot of time and energy hunting for the things we are told will make us happy, without contemplating if it is actually what we want. The only person who can make you feel fulfilled and happy is you. So stop blaming other people and complaining about your downfalls and take responsibility for your life. Use every mistake or downfall as a learning experience and use what you learn to change. Now you know what you want to achieve and strive towards it should be easier than ever to know which steps to take. Don’t spend your time waiting for somebody to tell you what to do. You may have to be a little selfish, but it will be worth it.
Having the belief that it is possible to create a beautiful life for yourself can be difficult. Negative thoughts, doubt and fear of the unknown will stop most dreams and goals in their tracks. It can be scary making drastic changes to your life without knowing what is ahead of you. But the only way of combating this is by thinking and being more positive within yourself. Try to start every day with unwavering positivity. You could read a motivational quote before you get out of bed or do a quick workout before leaving for work. You could try the Law Of Attraction manifestation techniques or look at the list or drawing you made of what you want. Whatever makes you feel on top of the world and ready for anything do it. This positivity will be infectious, and you’ll soon realise your complaining and moaning decreasing. Instead of thinking you can’t do something and quitting, you’ll begin to see the potential in every opportunity. Even the smallest of tasks can make a significant difference so don’t let your fear hold you back.
Set goals for yourself
Creating the life you want may require hard work, patience and dedication. It’s highly unlikely that you can change your life entirely within a day or a week. Another reason people often quit is because they don’t get results straight away and lose focus and motivation as a consequence. Change takes time, so you need to be patient. Setting yourself goals is an ideal way of staying focused and works for any time of life you want to create for yourself. If you want a healthier lifestyle, you can set yourself weight loss and exercise goals. If you want to quit smoking, you can cut down each week to meet a target you have set for yourself. If you want to achieve something continual goal setting is the best way to start. Break down what you want from your life and turn it into smaller more manageable goals for each day or week. That way you won’t feel so overwhelmed, and the change will be at a suitable pace. If you don’t reach a goal one week, analyse why that is and what you can do to change. Don’t feel disheartened. You may just need to try a different tact or technique.
It’s a wonderful feeling when you realize that you are in control of your own destiny. You can mold your life into any shape you want. It might be an ongoing process throughout your life, or you might achieve it sooner than anticipated. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family and document your change throughout. That way you can see how far you have come from where you started. Remember that only you can change the course of your own life, and nobody else is responsible for your happiness but you. Make this year, the year when you changed for the better and created something you can be proud of.