Who Can Help You if You Have an Accident?

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There are many things in life that people would rather not think are going to happen. Becoming sick, or seeing the death of a loved one, are just two of them. However, there are other things that can happen without any warning or influence from you.

If you or someone you love becomes involved in an accident, it can be distressing for everyone involved, especially the family. Although this can be a scary and intense situation, it is important that everyone becomes aware of what happened and more importantly, why.

There are times when you will need to think about engaging someone who can help you if you or your loved one has been injured. However, trying to find the right person can be difficult; there are many lawyers out there, and you need one that can understand and deal with your situation. Here are some tips on how you can effectively seek out a lawyer that can help you with a claim.

Time Limits
Despite the fact that it is a distressing time, there are, unfortunately, time limits on lawsuits, so you need to be aware of this. The time you have to file your lawsuit depends on the state you are in, but it can range from 1 to 6 years.
It might seem like a long time, but it can go by quickly, so you need to think about it well in advance. It isn’t just the amount of time you need to file the claim; you also need to do your research about who you are going to choose as your lawyer. It is a process that shouldn’t be hurried or done on a whim; you need someone to represent you that can do the right job.

Types of Attorney
You might think that all lawyers practice in the same fields, however, this is not the case. Just like a medical professional, some lawyers decide to specialize in certain types of cases, so you need to choose the best one for your situation.

Personal injury attorneys are trained in the specialties of injury and the legal system that revolves around it. They will have knowledge and experience that other lawyers outside the field may lack. For example, personal injury lawyers will often have trial experience whereas a real estate attorney may not. They will also have an understanding of medical diagnosis and the impact those have on a person’s life.

Another area they will have expertise in is negligence law and the laws that relate to it. It is because of these factors that you need to have someone with the knowledge and experience to tackle these types of cases.

Make a List of the Factors Involved
Before you go searching for a lawyer, you need to think about what factors they need to meet to become a good candidate. There is no use just picking a few names at random as you need to see them face to face as well.
That leads to the first part;

Location: You need to look for lawyers that are in the state you were injured. It is because you need to make sure they know all the local laws and rules in that state. If you have someone from out of the state, you may end up missing something or not doing things in the right timeframe.
Practice: Have you checked to see if they specialize in personal injury law? If you haven’t then you need to double check your selection. It is far better to choose a lawyer that has specialized knowledge. It can become quite specialized, for example, if you were injured by a defective product, there are lawyers that could have experience in this type of case.
Reputation: Find out about the lawyer’s reputation in your community or through other people. Has anyone you know, used this person before? How was their experience of working with them? It isn’t just about how they treat you; it is also about their success rate and how they work with other people that are important.
Years in Practice: Although all lawyers need to start somewhere, you want someone that has had at least some experience in the types of case you have. It will give you confidence in them, and they will have confidence in working with this type of case.
Disciplinary Record: Check that the lawyer has a good standing with other clients and the judicial system. See if anyone has filed a complaint against them, or if they have ever been suspended or disbarred. You may find lawyers with complaints against them, as some people may complain for no valid reason. However, you need to make sure that there are no upheld complaints.
Trial Experience: An important factor if the case goes to court is a trial experience. Being involved in a trial is a difficult thing that takes practice and knowledge to do correctly. The more experience a lawyer has with trials, the better it will be for your case.

The list you make can be as long or as short as you like, and it can have any factor you want. However, it needs to have at least these basic questions answered, or you might not be able to choose the right lawyer.

Personal Referrals
One way that you can shorten your list of candidates is to ask your friends or family if they have anyone they would recommend. Someone may have used a lawyer in a previous personal injury case and had a good experience.

There is little to beat word of mouth, so you should take this as a high factor in your choice. Similarly, you should ask if there is anyone that they wouldn’t recommend. Ask them why they had a bad experience and thought about whether this was a personal issue or a more general problem. If this lawyer is on your list of candidates, then you should think again.

Research, Your Candidates
Use the power of the internet to research your candidates and see what they are doing. There may be news items or other articles that they have been featured in that could give you a good insight into their practice.

Do not forget to check out their websites as well; you can often get a lot of information from their site including testimonials and any awards or associations that they belong to in the local area. Firms such as Babcock Partners have all their information and awards on their site so that you can see it all at a glance.

A lawyer’s website will also give you information about the type of cases they take on and their success rate. This can be a good way to rule out any firms that don’t cover your type of personal injury.

Call Your Candidates
The next step is to give all your candidates a call to have a quick chat and make a booking. You can usually gain a lot of insight into a company by the way they deal with clients on the phone.

Are they pleasant when they answer the phone? It is a small thing, but it can be indicative of the way the rest of the company operates. Also, are they keen to speak to you and get you to speak to a lawyer? If they don’t want to answer questions or try to put you off, then maybe they are not the firm for you.

How long does it take them to book you in for an appointment? For new clients, in particular, you would expect that they would want to speak to you as soon as possible to try and win your case. If they make you book well in advance, then it might be that they are not interested, or they are too busy to deal with your case effectively.

Arrange a Meeting
Finally, you have weeded down your list to maybe three or four candidates. Now, you have to go and meet them to see what they can do for you. Prepare a list of questions that you should ask about the firm and the case so that you are completely satisfied with what they can do.

Take some notes and some of the evidence with you so that you can discuss the case with them. Be prepared to answer any questions they have, but there is a lot of information they can get once they have agreed to take the case.

Just because they agree to take your case, it doesn’t mean that you have to pick them. Tell them that you will let them know so you can visit all the firms on your list before you make a decision.

After all the interviews and decisions, you should now have a good idea who you want to represent you in your injury case. It can take a long time to get through the process, but in the end, you will be happy and confident in your choice of lawyer.

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A Picture Perfect Day: Overcoming 7 Common Wedding Day Problems

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There’ll be few days more important in your lifetime than your wedding day. This is when you declare your everlasting love for your partner before all your friends and family and get to enjoy a proper knees-up party with you and your wife/husband at the centre of attention. However, while we can cross our fingers and hope for the best that the day will go off as planned, it’s always worth remembering that the course of love never did run smooth. Below, we take a look at seven common wedding problems – and how you can overcome them.

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Second Thoughts

The anxiety of the wedding can cause people to have second thoughts about the entire marriage, which in turn causes more stress! However, there’s a big difference between last minute jitters and having genuine second thoughts. You’ll have been planning your special day for months; it’s normal that, as the day approaches, you’re beginning to think more and more about whether it’s all worth it. If you’ve made it to the run up to the wedding without having doubts about your choice of partner, then it’s all because of the stress of the day. Once the day begins, all those anxieties will melt away.

Rainy Days

There aren’t too many picture perfect wedding days that have a backdrop of rain. But unfortunately, the weather is indifferent to your hopes and dreams for your wedding day, and everything else, for that matter. If you wake up and there are dark clouds gathering overhead, then make sure you have a Plan B for your reception if it’s due to take place outside. A gazebo that makes sure the dance floor isn’t affected by the weather will change everything, and umbrellas can make an awesome prop! For everything else, it’s all about having a devil may care attitude: the rain will not dampen the romance of the day.

Looking Your Best

Yes, we know that the day is about declaring your love for your partner…but it’s also about looking your absolute best for those all important wedding photos. Alas, a bad hair day, dental injury, or last minute dress issue can compromise your confidence to look great in the photographs. Be prepared. With a list of local dentists that provides emergency dental care and the phone number of a hairdresser, you can make sure you can rectify any last minute problems before a single photo has been snapped. A ‘dress emergency kit’ that has the supplies you need to sew any clothing problems or remove stains will also give you peace of mind that you’ll look your best.  

Ready to Dance

People getting married – brides in particular – stress about how well their shoes are going to match their outfit, forgetting that they also need to ensure they’re comfortable! You’ll be on your feet more or less all day: during the ceremony, meeting guests, and then when you’re throwing out those awesome dance moves. Have a backup pair of shoes, one that you know you can stand in for hours on end, in your bag at the wedding.

Confused Guests

You’ll know exactly how the day is going to go, but your guests? There’ll only have a vague idea. What might be obvious to you will be a mystery to your guests, so make sure everyone knows the running order of the day. Letting them know when the caterers will be serving dinner and speeches will be made will ensure nobody has to miss the important parts of the day – and will make for an all-around more cohesive day.

Waiting Guests

And talking of guests, let’s not keep them waiting. In the history of weddings, there has never been a bride who has arrived on time. Account for this lost time in your planning. If things are getting out of hand, have a group of people you can call to take care of the details that you won’t have time for.

Too Much of a Party

Now, for most people, the highlight of any wedding is the party. Unfortunately, people get so excited about the party that they sometimes lose a bit of self-control and indulge themselves a bit too much. In the wrong hands, an open bar can be a very dangerous thing! You don’t want to monitor how much people drink, but have a trusted friend or family member make sure things stay respectable.

You can’t account for every wedding problem, but there’s a solution for most everything if you anticipate what might go wrong in advance.

 

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What To Do When You Can’t Afford Medical Care

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Need medical care but can’t afford it? No-one should have to forgo treatment because of the costs. Whilst medical care is becoming more expensive, new options are constantly becoming available that are making it easier to finance for. Here are just a few options for those struggling with the costs.

Take out a personal loan

Taking out a loan is an easy way managing large medical bills, paying them off over a longer period in smaller amounts. There are all kinds of places where you can go to find a lender. Peer-to-peer lending sites such as Lending Club are a good place to find low interest loans. Hiring a loan broker may also allow you to find a cheap loan. For a loan with no interest at all, it may even be beneficial to ask family or an employer – whilst many of us don’t like asking those around us for money, people may be more sympathetic when the cause is your health.

Use a credit card

It could be worth taking out a credit card simply so that you can pay off big unforeseen expenses like medical care. If you don’t think you can be trusted with a credit card, a specialist CareCredit card could be the answer. These can only be used on medical expenses. You may also be able to take out a short term financing option in which no interest is charged.

Consider using an advocate

If you’re on a low income or unemployment benefits, you may be eligible to use an advocate. Medical advocates specialise mainly in getting treatment for people that can’t offer consent themselves, however they also help to offer medical care to those less fortunate. By negotiating with medical centres and researching into different treatment methods, they may be able to find you an affordable solution.

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Know your legal rights

In some cases, you may be eligible for a personal injury lawsuit. This could involve a car accident or a work related injury. In these cases you may be able to claim compensation with the help of a solicitor that could help you pay for treatment. In this case of paying off the loan or credit for someone who has died, there are also legal rights to explore. A wrongful death lawyer may be able to claim money for any fatal malpractice. Some lenders may be able to be negotiated with meanwhile in the case of an unpayable loan due to death, either knocking off the interest or allowing you to pay in smaller instalments over more time.

Take preventative action with medical insurance

The best way to prevent high medical bills is to take out insurance. Insurance schemes are now becoming more customisable, allowing you to lower your rates by only including certain types of treatment in your plan. You then have the option of deductibles, health FSAs and other financing methods that could help make medical costs more manageable.

 

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Rating a Restaurant: Make an Assessment Before You Eat

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Going out to eat is one of life’s great pleasures. You don’t have to cook, you can enjoy better food than you’re able to make, and you can experience the atmosphere. Choosing the right restaurant can be a little stressful though, especially because you’re trusting someone else to make your food. If it’s not up to scratch, the consequences could range from disappointment to food poisoning. When you choose a restaurant, use these steps to help you out.

Read Reviews

For most people, their first stop is somewhere they can read reviews. You might look at the food column of your favorite magazine or newspaper. Or you might look at reviews on a site like TripAdvisor.

Check Their Website

You can also look at a restaurant’s own website to see what they have to offer you. Not all restaurants have a website, but many do because it helps with their marketing. Sites will often give you an indication of how upmarket the restaurant is, and what’s on the menu.

See How Their Staff Are Treated

Here’s a great indicator of the quality of a restaurant: how they treat their staff. You can do some research on this by looking at resources like Glass Door, where people report their salaries and their experience working for their employer.

Check Their Hygiene Rating

It might seem basic, but knowing a restaurant has good hygiene standards is vital. If they don’t keep their kitchen clean and practice good hygiene, it could lead to food poisoning – no matter how good the food tastes.


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It’s Not Just Women’s Work! Why You Shouldn’t Have To Do All The Chores By Yourself!

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Even in a modern society that strives as hard as possible to make things totally equal for everyone, there’s one rather nasty stereotype that still seems to be strangely prevalent in a lot of people’s lives. That’s the idea that in a family home, the wife/mother does all of the chores including the cooking, cleaning, and anything else. Now, there might be some people for whom this lifestyle works, and if they’re happy with it, that’s great! However, if you find yourself feeling like there’s just a little bit too much pressure put on you to handle all of the chores in the house, then that’s a problem. Here are just a few reasons why the chores in your home aren’t just “women’s work.”

You’re not a servant

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A relationship should always be a totally equal partnership. If one person in the relationship has power over the other, then that’s going to potentially cause some pretty serious problems between them. But if you’re being made to do all of the housework, then you’re being treated more like a servant than an equal partner. Now, if your partner really doesn’t want to deal with things like cleaning, then why don’t you pay for maid services? That the house gets cleaned but you don’t have to spend your time feeling like you’re working for your partner rather than on the same level as them.  

You’re a busy person

The idea of the wife/mother doing all of the housework comes from the classic idea that one member of the household stayed at home while the other went out to work every day. However, thanks to the rising cost of living as well as the broad cultural realization that women are, obviously, just as skilled as men in the workforce, that dynamic has shifted. This means that, if you’re working a full-time job as well, there’s really no reason why you should be the one to do all of the cooking and cleaning. If you’re both bringing in equal shares of the income, then you should be doing equal shares of the chores.

You deserve a break

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One of the most common reasons why many people say that they shouldn’t have to do the housework is that they’re “tired after a long day at work.” Well, what about you? Even if you’ve made the decision to stay home with your children instead of going to work, that doesn’t mean that you get to relax all day. Taking care of kids and cooking all of the meals for the family is as much of a job as anything else, so why shouldn’t you have the chance to take a break every now and then?

Once again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing to be the one to do the chores around your home. A relationship is about balance, and if you feel like you’ve found the balance in your relationship then that’s great! However, if you feel like there’s a lot of pressure on your to deal with all of the chores by yourself when you don’t want to, then it might be time that you and your partner sat down and had a serious talk.

 

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Avoid Breakdowns on Family Road Trips!

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One of the worst things that can happen when driving – you know, aside from a crash – is a breakdown. This goes double if you’re going on a family road trip! It’s a nightmare scenario, but it’s not unavoidable, nor is it simply “bad luck”, the way that most people make it out to be. The vast majority of the time, some simple checks and tips will help avoid such car failure.

Check the tires

You should always check your tire pressure before you drive the car anywhere, let alone on a long journey. Most people don’t bother, but there’s little reason to not do this. We’re not talking about bothering with equipment; just giving the tires a good kick will do. If you don’t feel any give, then they are most likely fine. However, the pessimists will give them a quick check with a pressure gauge as well. Don’t forget to check the spare in the boot. If you have a flat tire, it’s easy to replace with a spare. You can find info on how to do that online. If the spare is useless, then you will have no choice but to contact an emergency towing service.

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Maintain the brakes

This, a million times over. You need to check all the braking systems you have. If you have a car with a trailer attached, for example, then you need check both the primary brakes and the electric brake controller. A lot of people don’t think to keep the brakes carefully checked; after all, if there was an issue, you’d know about it already, right? The problem: that means you find out about the problem when you’re already driving. Not exactly the ideal time to find out. Get familiar with your brakes and make sure they’re working perfectly before embarking on a long trip with the kids.

Measure the oil

If there isn’t enough oil in your car, there should be a warning light on your dashboard. If there’s no light, then you are most likely fine. But it’s still a good idea to check the oil levels manually! You’ll need to look into oil changes at some point, too. In general, car oil needs to be topped up every fortnight. However, it will depend how much you drive your car. Check it every fortnight; don’t just automatically top it up. This can lead to other problems. While you’re there, you should also check the water level. That needs to be kept quite full too. You can check the oil level using the dipstick, and you’ll find that next to the oil tank in the engine.

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Know the omens

Is your car making a funny noise or emitting an unpleasant, unfamiliar smell? If it is, you’re probably better taking it to a mechanic rather than continuing to drive it. Cars won’t usually break down without any warning sign; they will usually find a way to tell you that there’s a problem that needs fixing! The smell of burning in particularly should be seen as a red light, of course. This could be a severe problem with your exhausts or your engine that needs to be checked out immediately.

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Five Options for Staying Entertained on Your Morning Commute

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Most of us work hard throughout the week, so those who commute to work on public transport often take this time to have a short break, catch a breath and have some fun. Thanks to our gadgets, and the fact that Wi-Fi is now readily available on most public transportation, it’s never been easier to use your smartphone or tablet to have some fun and entertain yourself on your commute to and from work. We’ve listed some of the best things that you can do on the bus, train or subway during your morning or evening commute.

#1. Play Bingo:

If you’re a fan of playing online bingo and want to use your commute to work to try and win some extra money, then you’re in luck. There are several bingo apps that you can download which have a selection of games on offer, with differing ticket prices available, allowing you to have some fun regardless of your budget. If you’re not interested in playing for money, there are also many apps that you can download which will allow you to play for fun. With Bingo PayPal options, it’s never been quicker and more secure when depositing money to play with!

#2. Catch Up with a Book:

Thanks to apps such as Kindle and iBooks, there’s no need to take a book along with you on your morning commute. With your smartphone, tablet, or e-reading device, you can have a whole library with you to choose from! Whether you’re a fan of reading history, comedy, biographies, crime dramas, or romantic stories, reading can be the perfect way to pass the time during your morning commute.

#3. Play Games:

No matter how old you are, playing a game on your smartphone or tablet will always be a great way to relax, wind down, and have some fun. With hundreds of games to choose from that are free to download on iOS or Android devices, your morning commute will go by in a flash!

#4. Watch a Movie:

Thanks to unlimited data and the fact that Netflix now has an app for iOS and Android, there’s nothing stopping you from catching up with your favorite movies or TV shows during your morning commute. If your bus, train or subway has Wi-Fi, then you’ll be able to watch to your heart’s content without worrying about the amount of data that you’re using. Or, if you don’t have the time to watch a feature length film or even an episode of your favorite TV show, YouTube is great for catching up with funny videos.

#5. Listen to Music:

Listening to music is a great way to relieve stress, so it’s no surprise that it’s the activity of choice for many people who are trying to wind down and relax on their morning commute. Whether you’re into ballads or heavy metal, take some headphones along and spend your time traveling listening to some of your favorite tunes.

How do you spend your commutes to and from work? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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Best 3 Gadgets To Have In Your Car!

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Cars are the main way we get around in the 21st century, for some of us they are just a means to an end, and for others they can be a labour of love, a reflection of the self! But regardless of your interest in cars, there are 3 things that every car must have in order to make your journies just that extra bit easier!

A Phone Compatible Radio

All of us listen to music, it can make the time fly if you’re relaxing, get you excited for something or simply entertain you whenever you’re listening to it. Most of our music nowadays is stored on our phones, but unfortunately a lot of car radios don’t have any way of linking to your phone! This can be a problem if you want to listen to your music but the radio stations aren’t playing it! Websites like BestBuy sell a plethora of bluetooth and auxiliary input radios, meaning that you can link or plug your phone into the radio, turn on your music and enjoy it in your car!

A SatNav

SatNav is a shorthand version of Satellite Navigation, and is one of the best things to have in your car. Gone are the days of using maps or direction printouts, satnavs determine your position via GPS and are able to guide you along the right roads to get to your destination! They imitate the roads on their screen and have some form of signalling, usually an arrow, to show you the correct direction to go. Companies like TomTom offer these handy pieces of technology for a small price, it’s recommended that if you’re going anywhere you don’t know you get one of these to ensure that you don’t get lost!

An Air Purifier

People often think that the only use for an air purifier is for people who smoke in cars, but this is completely wrong! Air purifiers can be used in any car for any reason, it takes all of the odour out of the air and stores it within itself, all you need to do is empty the filter when you’ve finished with it! Websites like Acpulse.com have great suggestions for which air purifier to get for you car, and even larger ones for you home if you need one, the only difference is the size! It can offer you a much better quality of life, if you’re looking for more ways to improve it, check this out.

Using any one of these things can improve your car experience tenfold, you can listen to your own music to pass the time better or to just have more fun when you’re driving, a satellite navigation unit will mean that you never have to worry about getting lost again (unless you forget to charge it!) and an air purifier will mean that your car smells lovely and fresh every time you step inside it, you need to remember to keep that charged too! All of these things are relatively cheap too, so you should definitely try them out!

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The Top Benefits of Living in Another Country

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Many people each year take the bold step to leave their home and start a new adventure in another country. There can be many reasons why someone would choose to begin again somewhere else, but many find the idea an irresistible challenge.

However, what is the benefits of moving to another part of the world? What can you gain from it that you won’t get at home?

Personal Development

Experiencing life in another country doesn’t just develop you as a person, but also in your work and home life. If you have skills that you can take with you, then these may be in high demand in your new home. In fact, some sectors actively recruit from abroad to fill a skills gap in their country.

As well as employment, there are also benefits for your children’s education. They will learn a different way of living and appreciate other cultures. There will be other opportunities for them as well, such as scholarships and apprenticeships. One such opportunity is athletesusa.com who offer scholarships for athletes.

Improve Language and Communication

Living in another country can be difficult when it comes to the language. It takes longer to learn a new language, especially as you get older, but, there are positives. The benefit of living in the country you are learning the language of, is that you are immersed in the whole culture. You will learn to be conversational and recognise local dialect much faster, and become a more natural speaker.

In return, there may be opportunities for you to teach your first language to others so that they too can get the benefit of being bilingual.

Living in a New Culture

Part of living in another country is understanding and embracing the local culture. You will have to learn new ways of social activity and celebrations, as well as local customs and behaviour.

It can all be of enormous benefit to you and your family because it opens your minds to other ways of living and understanding. You may also learn things that you will want to adopt for yourself.

Making New Friends

The most important part of living somewhere new is making friends. The language barrier may limit this at first, but soon, you will be able to meet new people and understand what they say. In fact, you may meet someone who will become your new best friend, and be able to mix with other locals.

For children, making new friends is also important. At school, they will be able to understand new ways of learning and the local customs. It will also help them to learn the language much faster if they have friends who can help them.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should forget about your old friends back home, and having someone you can go home to visit has its own benefits.

Learning to live in another country is a big step, but, if you are open to new ways and willing to learn new cultures, then you should have no problems.

 

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Shake It Off: Dealing With Negative And Hurtful People As An Adult

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When we’re children, we tend to think of grown-ups as being wise, clever and kind. Surely they all adhere to the same standards, live in similar houses and think the same way? As you get older, you tend to look at adults as children who grew up, and aren’t simply adults who are static in time. People grow and learn, and sometimes this means that they don’t turn out for the better. Sometimes, people have bad weeks or periods of sustained depression that have adverse effects on how they behave around people.

As an adult, the ‘bully’ phenomena doesn’t really go away. It’s likely you’ve seen some workplace bullying on your university course, in your place of work, or another environment. It could even occur in the school playground between parents while the schoolchildren are being taught the problems with bullying in class. People aren’t guaranteed to behave better with age. Your child might ask you: “How do you handle bullies, teasers and meanies?” You might feel at a loss for words when you realize that you don’t know how to deal with them yourself in your daily life. What does improve though, is how you might learn to deal with it.

This article will help you navigate the tough waters of being an adult, and coming into contact with the unscrupulous sort that we all encounter once in awhile.

Assess Your Friendship Group

The best part of being an adult is that you can cut fake friendships at the root, and this includes pretty much everyone who isn’t dedicated to supporting you, and you them when needs be. Of course, don’t cut out your friendship groups if they are critical of you in your best interests. A good friend isn’t afraid to call you out when you’re acting negatively or making a silly decision, but as a friend, they should make sure that they continue this discussion instead of just blanket blaming you.

Having a tight-knit group of friends allows you to weed out the negative people from your life, and become happier in your support network. As you get older, friends become much less about quantity and much more about quality – this extends to all aspects of the exchange. Having one, two or three friends solely isn’t something to be ashamed of, as long as you’re working to your best to sustain the relationship. If you genuinely enjoy hanging around each other, this should happen naturally. The best friendships are never forced.

Be Supportive

Support and be supported by the genuine links you have around you. Finding ‘your tribe’ and becoming close-knit with them will introduce you to more like-minded people and as a result increase your circle of friendship to the point where people you don’t gel with can be duly ignored.

Respect Yourself

If you encounter a negative or toxic person at work or anywhere else that forces you to experience repeat contact with them, respecting yourself enough to ignore their baiting is enough to help you show them that some boundaries cannot be crossed. Immediately acting in your best interests, and not the interests that will ‘appease’ the bully, will make the bully know that you are not to be trifled with. Bullies enjoy picking on the weak, and so if they know you aren’t weak, they’re unlikely to come for you.

Self-respect can be developed in some ways and requires constant work. Exercise, meditation, being competent in your responsibilities and keeping a strong, balanced perspective on life can make you feel much less inclined to feel weak around a potential bully who’s sole purpose is to look for weakness. If you’re a parent, remember, you’ve already done the hardest job a human being can do. What can this silly person at work do to you?

Hold yourself to the highest standard, and you’re sure to navigate the situation well.

Do What Makes You Happy

If you’re focused on the things in your life that you actually take enjoyment from, you’re much less likely to be worried about the people who come into your life to try and cause chaos. Usually, people who are unfulfilled are the prime targets for these people, because they know that they are easily manipulated. As a person who is steadfast in enjoying what they themselves want to experience, you’re much less likely to invite these people in your life, because they bring no value to it.

Ignore

Ignoring is largely your best tactic. These people are looking for problems to feed off of, hurt feelings to extract and widen of their own accord. Remember, some people are actually wired this way. Sociopaths and psychopaths are both dysfunctional personality types that do exist, and depending on your chosen career, you might be more exposed to them than other people.

For example, the high flying stock markets and high executive positions in large corporations are usually playgrounds for psychopaths, because the rules of running a corporation demands a certain ruthlessness and singular vision. This doesn’t mean you should change careers to best avoid these people, but you should just be aware of the type of people you can come across and that you might have to deal with them more regularly than most people. Ignoring them is a good starting point.

Focus On Your Own Love

If you have sources of genuine love in your life, either from family members, a spouse, a boyfriend/girlfriend or any other form of love that’s not so easily defined, you’re much more likely to be defensive of your side of the exchange. This is because you are already getting all you need from other people.

Be Comfortable In Your Skin

Everyone has flaws, and everyone has insecurities. It is a normal part of being a human. However, having these insecurities turned against you is one of the major and preferred tactics of any bully. However, why should you let someone else define you? If they cross that line, let them know in no uncertain terms about it, and also let it go immediately.

Worrying about what someone who isn’t worth your time thinks of you is a fast way to accept what they say is true. Also, don’t waste your time in hate. If you do, they have won the entire exchange, because you are carrying that person with you, both mentally and emotionally. They will have already nested inside your psyche, and that’s the opposite of what they should be. Remember, if you don’t respect them, there is zero reason to think of them.

Accept The Flaws Of Other People

Noone is perfect. You have just been unfortunate to come into contact with someone who might have more flaws than those you have encountered in the past. But at the same time, try and look at it with a sort of ‘whole perspective.’ If there were no ‘nasty’ people in the world, you wouldn’t know you were nice. So in essence, you are intrinsically reliant on the bad people to understand your place in the world, and to define what you mean by ‘being a good person.’ Without this full spectrum of individuals, the world would be a less complete place.

Accept You Have Your Own Flaws

However, there’s no need for you to get all high and mighty about noticing the flaws in other people. Remember, you most likely have plenty to contend with yourself. No human being is perfect, and worrying about the flaws in another person can blind you to the flaws in yourself. In fact, it’s likely that in some point of your life, you have been hurtful to another person, and given them reason to doubt themselves, either indirectly or directly.

This is just part of being a human. Living a good life doesn’t come with its own instruction manual, and as a young child, teenager and adult the process of becoming a person means that you’re undoubtedly going to make mistakes at some point or another.

Stick Up For Yourself

The most important part of this list is condensed into this last heading. Stick up for yourself. Bullies are usually weak people. Strong people don’t bully. Bullies desire the path of least resistance. Remember, they are bullying to feel strong within themselves. If you let them know just how pathetic that attempt is through your action, they are much less likely to try their idiocy with you again. You’ll hear many tidbits of advice from all corners of the internet telling you to ‘turn the other cheek’ and to ‘forget about the whole thing,’ but if it’s a real, sustained bullying attempt taken on by a bully, then you have no other option but to approach the situation directly.

There’s no shame in sticking up for yourself. You just need to be wise about it. Fighting is NEVER encouraged, but a stern word is always effective. If you are in a situation in which you worry for your safety, immediately call the police, or let the relevant authorities at your workplace know about it.

Get as many people aware of the situation as you can, and don’t bury your head in the sand.

Remember, you never, never, never deserve to experience bullying, no matter how low your self-esteem might be that week. Always, always, always take action.

Teach all of these considerations to your children, and you will both be all the stronger for it.

 

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